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Time To Dig A Little Deeper

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(yes, I am still drinking wine…)

Alright, so I know I said I was going to take time off from my little blog but I have something on my mind that I thought I should share and hopefully gain some advice from you all. It’s a very simple yet oh so complicated topic. I.stress.easily. very easily. I don’t know why it happens this way but I have always been prone to stress. Even in high school— whether it was a fight with friends or a massive test, I would stress out. In college, it was the same thing. If I had more than two tests in a week, hello stress! For the most part, i would like to think I manage my stress pretty well. I make lists (thank you, mom) and organize things in order of priority. I make my life at least appear to be  simplistic and not-so-stressful. I don’t like to make other people around me feel stressed when I am freaking out internally because that is just not how I work. In my opinion, just because I am stressing out about something doesn’t necessarily mean that someone else is feeling the same way. Being stressed is never fun so bringing someone into that boat when it can be avoided, I say heck yes.

Lately, at work I have been gaining a lot of responsibility. Don’t get me wrong— this.is.fantastic. I have been wanting to take on more for awhile now and all i can think at this very moment is “be careful what you wish for” because it could not be more true. Without going into the entire situation for privacy and my own well-being, you just need to know that I am going to be swamped at work the next few weeks. Many people have asked if I am nervous. The honest answer, yes… how could I not be?! This is my first job in the “real world” and I am still learning (and will continue to for awhile) so yes, it is scary. However, I am so ready to take on the challenge. I feel prepared, to an extent, and I know I am capable. I am more worried about the unknown. You know what I am talking about right? I am organized so I have all my ducks in a row but what about the duck I don’t account for?! That duck scares the crap out me. Who knows when or where its coming from but have no fear, it will come. Something unexpected is expected. And THAT is what I need your help with. Does anyone have advice or some de-stressing routines or steps they like to take? I have the “drinking excessive amounts of wine” covered so that’s a non-issue. What else do you have?!

Here’s to another day! Have a good one!

xx, MEB

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Tasteful Advice: The Happiness Project

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Has anyone read The Happiness Project? My best friend recommended that I read it because she knew it was something I would immediately dive into with full force. Clearly she is aware of my reading habits, as discussed in in last week’s post. Well, I started reading it on the way back from Atlanta and within one chapter it already had me thinking.

The Happiness Project is about a New Yorker who despite her fortunate life, wonderful husband, two beautiful daughters, and  a published writer amongst other things, she found herself to not be as happy as she thought she could be. There was potential for more. It wasn’t that she was unhappy, she’s just thought she could be more happy. She knew she had a amazing life but when she took a step back from everything she found herself not appreciating all the blessings in her life. The woman decides to set out on a journey to create a happiness project. A twelve-month-long project that is devoted to making her more happy. However, as much as this decision was made on a whim, after the fact there was much research. She had read a number of books from authors like Henry David Thoreau and biographies of Benjamin Franklin in addition to books on psychology and philosophy. She looked into several options and did extensive research. After all, everything important we know about happiness has already been discovered and documented by the great men that have come before us. She took a part of her newly developed project from a biography on Benjamin Franklin. His theory for happiness was to create a chart of twelve things that he could improve in his life that would make him happier. The key is to focus on each task every day. The author of “The Happiness Project,” Gretchen Rubin, decided that she would take the twelve aspects and apply them to each month in one year. Each month focuses on one aspect and then the next month adds another task that she felt needed attention. By the end of the year she will have accumulated twelve aspects that will provide her, hopefully, with a closer grasp on happiness.

Sounds like a good plan, right?! I mean who wouldn’t want to be happier. This whole theory really got me to thinking on the plane ride on Friday. I have found myself at a similar point in my life. It’s not a matter of being unhappy. I love my life and am so fortunate to live the life I lead. I am blessed beyond words. However, I feel that I could be even happier. I have so many things to be thankful for but at the same time i feel like i don’t appreciate them to their full capacity. Not to mention, i feel like my life is flying by and i haven’t taken the time to truly live it. I am twenty-two but somehow feel so young and so old all at the same time. Am I alone on this? Maybe you need to read the book to understand it?

I started to think about what my twelve things to focus on would be on over a year long happiness project. Yes, I’ve asked myself multiple questions about this. One major question being: can I even do it? Do I want to do it? I mean, who are we kidding. I am A.D.D. and go through phases all the time. Is this just another phase? What will my friends and family think? Will my boyfriend think I’m crazy for doing this? How will I define success- if I am happy at the end? Or if I am happier on daily basis? And the inevitable…what if it doesn’t work?

As I sat on the plane I thought about all the questions before enduring on a happiness project and I turned to my iPod for inspiration. I immediately knew what song to turn on repeat: “Home” by Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeroes. It’s a “happy place song” for me. Maybe because home is a such a happy place for me. Although, this got me to thinking, as well. Over the years my “home” has changed quite a bit. Up until five years ago home was Boston, MA. But now, whether my mother wants to accept this or not, my home is in Texas. When traveling, people ask me where I am from. Lately, I have found myself saying Texas. And not just with a casual reply, I am talking with such pride you wouldn’t’ believe. Now, to clarify… if people ask me if I am originally from Texas or where I grew up, I obviously say Massachusetts. I know this sounds weird but freshman year of college whenever I was asked where I was from, I replied, “Boston.” This was either followed by one of two things: 1. If in a bar, “oh you’re from Austin! Awesome, what high school did you go to?” Or 2. Boston, what the heck are you doing here? (As if people from other states weren’t allowed in Texas). Regardless, I said Boston and corrected every single person that ever thought I was from Austin. I was so incredibly proud to be from Boston. After all, I was the only person I knew from Boston at TCU. Not going to lie, I felt pretty freaking unique to say the least. Now, my home is in Texas and I couldn’t be more excited to say this is where I live. I am proud to be an official Texan now! I was just recently told by someone that I had a Texas accent. This made my day! How could it not? I finally belonged. For the last five years I have been in a place that I always seemed to fit into and now the feelings are mutual.

So what does this and my plane ride thought process have to do with my potential happiness project? Maybe nothing. But it has helped to clarify and remind me of a few things:

– Home is truly where the heart is
– You can in fact have more than one home
– My family will always be my number one priority
– Contrary to my initial thoughts, Texans do not go to school on horses
– Accidents happen and people make mistakes
– Don’t be afraid to fall in love with as many things as possible
– Be kind to everyone
– Don’t think about the “what ifs” as much
– Never lose your sense of faith
– Dogs are the best healers
– Money doesn’t buy happiness
– Don’t be afraid to fail
– You are the only one who can measure your personal success
– Let it go. Just let it go.
– Love conquers all.
– Always believe that the best is yet to come

With that being said, if I was to start a happiness project I think I know the twelve things I would focus on.

1. God- have faith and create a stronger relationship with God.
2. Family- always the number one priority- keep it that way
3. Love- work each day to make this a better relationship and more amazing than it already is. Learn new things about him and love him more each day
4. Friends- make an effort to spend more time with friends
5. Mindfulness- learn to be mindful of not only others but also, myself. One of the most important relationships is the one you have with yourself
6. Patience- a flaw that I know I need to work on. Be patient and kind. Apparently it’s a virtue…
7. Work- be happy where I work. It’s something I do every day. I deserve to like what I am doing
8. Contribution- give back to others
9. Financial organization- I want to be more aware of the money I’m spending and the money I’m saving. Being financially- savvy never hurt anyone
10. Self-educate- there is always more to be learned
11. Explore- see what the world has to offer. Explore new options, hobbies, interests, destinations, recipes and whatever else I want
12. Willingness- be willing to try new things. Be willing to fail. Be willing to be spontaneous. Be willing… To try.

So what do you all think? Am I crazy? Have any of you ever tried or completed a happiness project?! I’d love to hear your input!!

Have a happy Wednesday!!


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Tasteful Advice: Never Go To Waco… Unless Necessary

And this case… it is very necessary. I haven’t seen my best friend in months and well, that is reason enough. This weekend I am off to Waco, Texas to visit my incredibly awesome and brilliant friend, the law student. I can guarantee that there will be many laughs and conversations about how much we miss college– this is just inevitable. I will be sure to take tons of pictures to share with all of you. That way you will never actually have to go to this horrid place— if you’re from Texas, you know what I am talking about.

| Here’s to you Miss Law Student, I’ve missed you |

On another note, it is a very special someone’s birthday today! Miss PMA, happy happy birthday sister!!! Hope you’ve had a wonderful day! I wish I could be celebrating with you tonight! Guess we will have to make up for it next time we’re together :) miss&love you lots!

| yes, we know, we’re extremely attractive. sorry! |

| great minds think alike! |


Hope you have a fantastic weekend! Check back Monday for a weekend recap!

xx, MEB


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Tasteful Advice: Carry Yourself with Grace

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Am I the only one who thinks this week felt abnormally long? No? Good. This quote above has been the background of my Ipad for many months. I’m pretty A.D.D with those sorts of things so to have anything last longer than 1 month is a record.

Grace [noun, verb] elegance or beauty of form, manner, motion, or action; goodwill or kindness.

Grace. What is it? I am certainly not graceful (clumsy would be an accurate word) but I would still like to think I carry myself with grace. I believe that grace is a way to present one’s self. Walk into a room and encompass yourself with grace, be delighted to know that you have achieved one of the highest compliments. It’s a behavior that can be expressed in a multitude of ways. This weekend, say grace…but also, wherever you may be, know that you too, can have grace. If you’re lucky, all you need to do is be yourself.

Have a wonderful (& graceful) weekend!!

xx, MEB

 

Ps. Go Frogs!! Rah Rah TCU! Big game this weekend— hopefully it ends in our favor!!


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Tasteful Advice

Tasteful Advice:

1. | Plan a trip somewhere you’ve never been. Its always refreshing to go some place new with someone you care about; friend, family, or significant other.

2. | Learn something new– something non-work related. It’s enjoyable to test your intelligence. Sometimes we get so caught up in work we forget there are millions of things left to learn in the world.

3. | Explore. Go find a place where you can simply wander without care. It can be a new part of town, a new store (this tends to have multiple benefits!), go on a walk and discover somewhere new. You may find something completely unexpected.

4. | Wear something old but new. I am guilty of sticking to my favorite staples in my closet and leaving other things behind. This weekend, grab the blouse, pairs of shoes or jacket you forgot you had and rock it. It’s nice not having to go shopping everytime you want to wear something “new.”

5. |  Don’t forget to celebrate!! Life is about having fun and trying new things with the people you love. Bask in it.

Have a wonderful Friday!

xx, Megan